I used to think that self-help books were just for people that had problems, like big problems. I thought alcoholics, people in abusive relationships, people who cry themselves to sleep every night, people who can't stand up for themselves, things like that. Boy was I WRONG!
At the end of May, I joined a group and got a mentor. The first part of this course was about personal development. I still had a bad image of this idea, but as I kept going through the course, I started to understand why. In order to help other people, I need to be the best version of myself possible. I need to be mentally strong, I need to understand myself, I need to be the best me possible. Now, during grad school and since then, I have grown a lot, learned a lot about myself, and am proud of the person I am today. However, I looking to start a business and I have NO IDEA what I am doing. So, instead of finding books about alcoholism, or narcotics, like I used to think all the self-help books are about, I found people who are entrepreneurs paving the way. What a better way to learn then to follow in the steps of people who have been there and done it?
Basically, self-help books don't need to be for super insecure people, or people struggling to the extent I thought before. It's for anyone, and everyone! What I have learned most in this group that I am in, is that I am NOT ALONE. The way I think is not wrong, it's not bad, it's not uncommon. Once a week, I think:
"How am I going to do this?"
"Why would anyone listen to me?"
"No-one has done this before, how do I get people to listen?"
"I'm not good enough."
"I don't have enough experience, maybe I should wait."
"This is hard."
I am NOT ALONE in thinking this way, and neither are you. My creating a business is hard. My weight-loss journey is hard. But, I am not alone. There are others out there like me. I have met that in my business world and I am writing this to meet people similar in the weight-loss world. We are all good enough, we CAN do this, it IS HARD. That's ok. It's mindset that matters.
I talked about habits last week. Habits are a form of mindset. We need to get the right mindset to be who we know we can be, who we deserve to be. Self-help books are what helps me be a better me, mentally. I recommend Joe Sincero's "You are a Badass" as a good starting point. I listened to the audio book, but she had humor with it and I was finding myself relating. Now I listen to podcasts. As I find more, I will share, but get started on improving your mentality, and the rest will start to come.
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Lots of people will tell you that weight-loss is 80% nutrition. That is true. However, do you want to be firm or loose? Do you want to be happy, or sad? I challenge you to figure out why you are trying to lose weight. See if working out doesn't help you reach those goals. I didn't talk about that point too much in this post, but I will in a future one. The purpose of this video is to share a story and tell you what working out does to me and why it is more important than anything else, in my view.
I talked a little about how I got stuck in a rut with some old habits and how I started to change my habits again this week. I figured I would give some tips on what I did to start changing my habits again. I am still struggling to workout everyday, which seriously, 1 month ago, no problem, now....I don't want to workout floods my head. I am still struggling, but here are some tips I am doing.
Tip 1: Working out. I change into my workout clothes first thing in the morning. Now I am stuck in those clothes until I shower, so I might as well workout.
Tip 2: Working out. Choose my workout beforehand. If I figure out what I am going to do beforehand, then when I get to my gym, I can't waste my time. I know what I need and want to do, just do it and get it over with.
Tip 3: Food. I went to Whole Foods and Tates Chocolate Chip Cookies were on sale. FML. Talk about my weakness. Well, two weeks ago, I bought a bag, and binged. I haven't done that in a while. Ever since, my sweet tooth has increased. Well, I have filled my house with strawberries, peaches, pears, and mangos. Any fruits that my body thinks of as "sweet" are now in the front of my fridge, or on the counter. There is no going for something else. Last night I had a pear and a mango, but it was a better choice than going and getting some cookies.
Tip 4: If you have food allergies, remove them from your kitchen. I just learned I might be gluten sensitive. Maybe that is why I am having such a hard time right now. I am struggling with changing my eating habits, and that is hard. Changing habits in food, work, and working out, all at once is a lot. I would recommend choosing one things to focus on first. For me, I think I haven't been working out as much, but I am working on getting rid of gluten and dairy. I am not being anal about it yet, but just trying new things, seeing what I might like, and trying to make those changes. I got in a habit of eating a sandwich for lunch everyday, because a nutritionist advised it, but turns out that now I can't have the bread, what do I do? It's a lot to handle all at once, so I am going slow with small changes. First I just cleaned out the house of gluten tempting things. I still have things for my fiancé, and guests, but the things I would want to eat, are now gluten free. For instance, I like to have pretzels every once in a while and no one else in my house eats them. I went and got gluten free ones yesterday. Perfect, now I have a salty snack. Yay!
Tip 4: Small changes. Like I mentioned in number 3, don't try and do it all at once. Make one change at a time. If you are a soda person, start by decreasing the soda. Don't think about anything else yet, just start there. Try flavored sparking water, or sparkling water, or juice, whatever you can stand, but can help you kick the soda habit. If you try to do soda, plus food, plus working out, etc, you will be overwhelmed, just like I was.
Try these tips, feel free to leave comments too.
My name's Amanda and this is a blog about my story and my life. My hope is to motivate some of you to get going on your weight-loss journey as well as help people along the way. If you have questions about how to get started, or anything else, feel free to ask.