Dairy free - Check
Gluten free - Check
"Healthy" - Check
Paleo - Check
All these things and somewhat easy to make. Not as easy as I normally like, which is just throwing everything in a crock pot, but still easy to follow.
I hate those places that take forever to get to the recipe...so here it is: Healthy Chicken and Broccoli Casserole
When we are on "diets", we often think of anything that is not on that diet as a "cheat meal". We beat ourselves up and tell ourselves that tomorrow we will start over. But we need to start changing this thought process and here is why.
First, diets are tough. They limit the foods we eat. This in turn makes us eventually crave something that we used to eat, but aren't eating on that diet. We are depriving ourselves of certain foods, which makes our bodies want them even more. This isn't healthy, or necessary. Some people beat themselves up when they have a cheat meal. I was never one of those people. I always said oh well, gave in, and started new the next day. The problem with both of these thoughts is that we need to stop beating ourselves up for being human. For craving something. It is ok. Give in every once in a while. But this leads me to my next point.
When we deprive ourselves of something for a long time, or really restrict our foods, when we do have a "cheat meal", we end up over indulging sometimes. For me, it is cookies. I love chocolate chip cookies. I bought a box, ate the whole thing in the car, and threw away the evidence so no one could say anything and I didn't have to see what I did. That was because I restricted myself from so many things. Instead, when I happen to make cookies and eat 2 and tell my fiancé to bring the rest to work, I am fine. I eat two, am happy, and didn't "ruin" my "diet". We need to be ok with giving in every once in a while so that we don't go overboard. Above, I used the word "ruin"...which leads to me to why I said it in quotations.
We don't ruin a diet, or fail a diet, especially when we aren't dieting in the first place. The goal is to make something sustainable. Relearn what healthy eating is. Create a healthy relationship with food. When we are on that path and that mindset, then nothing is "off limits" or "off the diet", because everything is fair game, in moderation. The key is learning that.
It took me a long time to get to this place, but I have finally reached it. I try to eat "good" 90% of the time, which is a huge change from when I was 13 years old. The key is to do the best you can. I know I am saying this post now, and I am about to start a "diet of sorts", but it is for health reasons. I am going gluten free and dairy free for 13 weeks. This is for a medical reason instead of to lose weight. If I lose weight in the process, awesome, but that isn't the goal. A while back you might have seen some posts about me having knee pain. Well, found out I might have a gluten sensitivity, cut gluten out about 75%, and my knee pain magically went away. No joke. I was doing everything, from working out, to rehab, to ice, to rest, but my symptoms were not normal musculoskeletal symptoms. Turns out, my increase in gluten, which a nutritionist advised, ended up being horrible for me. Who knew? Well, I will be trying a gluten free thing in January for about 13 weeks, to see if other symptoms I have go away and see how I feel. While during that time I will be cutting out things, I also will make sure to make cookies one day that are gluten free. Give into those cravings when I need them. You might see me post about paleo, that is my choice because recipes are easy to find for paleo and that is gluten and dairy free so I won't have to adjust the recipes. You might also wonder why I am waiting till January. Simple...while I am telling all of you and the world about this, I do not like to cause trouble for others. Since I will be doing lots of traveling and being with family, I don't want to be a burden, and will keep it the best I can while I am there, so when I can control my food again, I will start it up. Feel free to ask questions, always happy to answer them.
I used to think that self-help books were just for people that had problems, like big problems. I thought alcoholics, people in abusive relationships, people who cry themselves to sleep every night, people who can't stand up for themselves, things like that. Boy was I WRONG!
At the end of May, I joined a group and got a mentor. The first part of this course was about personal development. I still had a bad image of this idea, but as I kept going through the course, I started to understand why. In order to help other people, I need to be the best version of myself possible. I need to be mentally strong, I need to understand myself, I need to be the best me possible. Now, during grad school and since then, I have grown a lot, learned a lot about myself, and am proud of the person I am today. However, I looking to start a business and I have NO IDEA what I am doing. So, instead of finding books about alcoholism, or narcotics, like I used to think all the self-help books are about, I found people who are entrepreneurs paving the way. What a better way to learn then to follow in the steps of people who have been there and done it?
Basically, self-help books don't need to be for super insecure people, or people struggling to the extent I thought before. It's for anyone, and everyone! What I have learned most in this group that I am in, is that I am NOT ALONE. The way I think is not wrong, it's not bad, it's not uncommon. Once a week, I think:
"How am I going to do this?"
"Why would anyone listen to me?"
"No-one has done this before, how do I get people to listen?"
"I'm not good enough."
"I don't have enough experience, maybe I should wait."
"This is hard."
I am NOT ALONE in thinking this way, and neither are you. My creating a business is hard. My weight-loss journey is hard. But, I am not alone. There are others out there like me. I have met that in my business world and I am writing this to meet people similar in the weight-loss world. We are all good enough, we CAN do this, it IS HARD. That's ok. It's mindset that matters.
I talked about habits last week. Habits are a form of mindset. We need to get the right mindset to be who we know we can be, who we deserve to be. Self-help books are what helps me be a better me, mentally. I recommend Joe Sincero's "You are a Badass" as a good starting point. I listened to the audio book, but she had humor with it and I was finding myself relating. Now I listen to podcasts. As I find more, I will share, but get started on improving your mentality, and the rest will start to come.
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Lots of people will tell you that weight-loss is 80% nutrition. That is true. However, do you want to be firm or loose? Do you want to be happy, or sad? I challenge you to figure out why you are trying to lose weight. See if working out doesn't help you reach those goals. I didn't talk about that point too much in this post, but I will in a future one. The purpose of this video is to share a story and tell you what working out does to me and why it is more important than anything else, in my view.
I talked a little about how I got stuck in a rut with some old habits and how I started to change my habits again this week. I figured I would give some tips on what I did to start changing my habits again. I am still struggling to workout everyday, which seriously, 1 month ago, no problem, now....I don't want to workout floods my head. I am still struggling, but here are some tips I am doing.
Tip 1: Working out. I change into my workout clothes first thing in the morning. Now I am stuck in those clothes until I shower, so I might as well workout.
Tip 2: Working out. Choose my workout beforehand. If I figure out what I am going to do beforehand, then when I get to my gym, I can't waste my time. I know what I need and want to do, just do it and get it over with.
Tip 3: Food. I went to Whole Foods and Tates Chocolate Chip Cookies were on sale. FML. Talk about my weakness. Well, two weeks ago, I bought a bag, and binged. I haven't done that in a while. Ever since, my sweet tooth has increased. Well, I have filled my house with strawberries, peaches, pears, and mangos. Any fruits that my body thinks of as "sweet" are now in the front of my fridge, or on the counter. There is no going for something else. Last night I had a pear and a mango, but it was a better choice than going and getting some cookies.
Tip 4: If you have food allergies, remove them from your kitchen. I just learned I might be gluten sensitive. Maybe that is why I am having such a hard time right now. I am struggling with changing my eating habits, and that is hard. Changing habits in food, work, and working out, all at once is a lot. I would recommend choosing one things to focus on first. For me, I think I haven't been working out as much, but I am working on getting rid of gluten and dairy. I am not being anal about it yet, but just trying new things, seeing what I might like, and trying to make those changes. I got in a habit of eating a sandwich for lunch everyday, because a nutritionist advised it, but turns out that now I can't have the bread, what do I do? It's a lot to handle all at once, so I am going slow with small changes. First I just cleaned out the house of gluten tempting things. I still have things for my fiancé, and guests, but the things I would want to eat, are now gluten free. For instance, I like to have pretzels every once in a while and no one else in my house eats them. I went and got gluten free ones yesterday. Perfect, now I have a salty snack. Yay!
Tip 4: Small changes. Like I mentioned in number 3, don't try and do it all at once. Make one change at a time. If you are a soda person, start by decreasing the soda. Don't think about anything else yet, just start there. Try flavored sparking water, or sparkling water, or juice, whatever you can stand, but can help you kick the soda habit. If you try to do soda, plus food, plus working out, etc, you will be overwhelmed, just like I was.
Try these tips, feel free to leave comments too.
Too often, we put ourselves before others. We need to stop doing this, and start taking care of ourselves. Here is my input on why and a different take on self care.
My name's Amanda and this is a blog about my story and my life. My hope is to motivate some of you to get going on your weight-loss journey as well as help people along the way. If you have questions about how to get started, or anything else, feel free to ask.