I used to think that self-help books were just for people that had problems, like big problems. I thought alcoholics, people in abusive relationships, people who cry themselves to sleep every night, people who can't stand up for themselves, things like that. Boy was I WRONG!
At the end of May, I joined a group and got a mentor. The first part of this course was about personal development. I still had a bad image of this idea, but as I kept going through the course, I started to understand why. In order to help other people, I need to be the best version of myself possible. I need to be mentally strong, I need to understand myself, I need to be the best me possible. Now, during grad school and since then, I have grown a lot, learned a lot about myself, and am proud of the person I am today. However, I looking to start a business and I have NO IDEA what I am doing. So, instead of finding books about alcoholism, or narcotics, like I used to think all the self-help books are about, I found people who are entrepreneurs paving the way. What a better way to learn then to follow in the steps of people who have been there and done it?
Basically, self-help books don't need to be for super insecure people, or people struggling to the extent I thought before. It's for anyone, and everyone! What I have learned most in this group that I am in, is that I am NOT ALONE. The way I think is not wrong, it's not bad, it's not uncommon. Once a week, I think:
"How am I going to do this?"
"Why would anyone listen to me?"
"No-one has done this before, how do I get people to listen?"
"I'm not good enough."
"I don't have enough experience, maybe I should wait."
"This is hard."
I am NOT ALONE in thinking this way, and neither are you. My creating a business is hard. My weight-loss journey is hard. But, I am not alone. There are others out there like me. I have met that in my business world and I am writing this to meet people similar in the weight-loss world. We are all good enough, we CAN do this, it IS HARD. That's ok. It's mindset that matters.
I talked about habits last week. Habits are a form of mindset. We need to get the right mindset to be who we know we can be, who we deserve to be. Self-help books are what helps me be a better me, mentally. I recommend Joe Sincero's "You are a Badass" as a good starting point. I listened to the audio book, but she had humor with it and I was finding myself relating. Now I listen to podcasts. As I find more, I will share, but get started on improving your mentality, and the rest will start to come.
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My name's Amanda and this is a blog about my story and my life. My hope is to motivate some of you to get going on your weight-loss journey as well as help people along the way. If you have questions about how to get started, or anything else, feel free to ask.